When should we ask these?

Before the engagement is ideal, but any time is better than never. Couples who talk about money and kids early argue about them less later.

That’s the point of asking. Most disagreements can be worked out once both of you know they exist.

Is this premarital counselling?

No. It’s a good start, and a counsellor can go further with you.

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Questions to ask before marriage

The questions to ask before you get married or move in: money, kids, family, faith, chores and the future. Better asked now than found out later. Top 10 first, then 64 more. Draw a card, ask it out loud, tap Done.

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An unexpected $5,000 lands. We… (Save all of it · Save most, small treat · Spend most on a trip · Spend it, life is short)

You both answer. Then tap Done.

The top 10

Find out where you match

In Sync asks you both the big questions, shows where you agree, and gives you three questions to talk through where you don’t.

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Every card, by section

Money6 cards

Family and kids6 cards

Faith and meaning6 cards

Traditions6 cards

Work6 cards

Moving in together28 cards

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Talking about money16 cards

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Questions to ask before marriage

An unexpected $5,000 lands. We… (Save all of it · Save most, small treat · Spend most on a trip · Spend it, life is short)

The top 10

Find out where you match

Every card, by section

Money6 cards

Family and kids6 cards

Faith and meaning6 cards

Traditions6 cards

Work6 cards

Moving in together28 cards

Talking about money16 cards

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