What should I ask a guy to get to know him?

Ask about things he does and remembers, not his CV: a place, a friend, a childhood obsession. Then follow up on his answer.

How do I keep it from feeling like an interview?

Answer each question yourself too, and let one good question run instead of moving on to the next.

Do these work over text?

Yes. Most are short enough to send, and easy to answer on a phone.

For two · 76 cards

Questions to ask a guy

Questions to ask a guy you’re getting to know, on a date, over text or at a party. Easy to answer, and every one invites a story. Top 10 first, then 66 more. Draw a card, ask it out loud, tap Done.

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What were you obsessed with as a kid?

You both answer. Then tap Done.

The top 10

Questions to ask a guy you’re getting to know, on a date, over text or at a party. Easy to answer, and every one invites a story. Top 10 first, then 66 more. Draw a card, ask it out loud, tap Done.

Take it to a first date

The First dates deck in the app deals one question at a time, so it feels like a game, not an interview.

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Fun ones17 cards

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Questions to ask a guy

What were you obsessed with as a kid?

The top 10

Take it to a first date

Every card, by section

To get to know him22 cards

Where he comes from23 cards

What he wants14 cards

Fun ones17 cards

Questions people ask

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