Friends
12 deep questions to ask your best friend
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Maya Okafor
· 5 min read
For old friends who already know the basics and want to go further.
Why ask at all
Long friendships run on shared history, which makes it easy to stop asking. These start with the fun stuff and work toward what you might not have said.
Start with the fun stuff
- 1What’s the funniest thing that’s happened to us?
- 2What snack would you go to war for?
- 3What are you into right now that I don’t know about?
- 4Which of us survives longer in a zombie film?
Your friendship
- 5When did you first think we’d be friends?
- 6What’s something I’ve helped you through?
- 7What trip should we actually take?
- 8What have you changed your mind about lately?
The deeper stuff
- 9What’s been hard lately that you haven’t said?
- 10What do you admire about me that you’ve never said?
- 11What do you need more of from our friendship?
- 12What do you want our friendship to look like in ten years?
Play these as cards
The Friend deck deals one question at a time and adapts to your answers.
FAQ
What if it gets awkward?
Laugh about it and pick a lighter question. Awkward usually means you’re close to something real.
Can we do this over text?
You can, but voice or in person works better. You hear how the answer lands.